So if you didn’t know, I’m engaged (don’t think I’ve mentioned it enough) and currently planning our wedding and I’m super excited!
I thought I’d chat about the wedding traditions that we are scrapping for our wedding. We’re not really ones for tradition, and they don’t really fit us anyway.
If the wedding traditions are your thing then that is GREAT and you do as many of them as YOU want. They just aren’t my things so no judgement here.
Obviously, each country has different traditions, so some these might not apply depending on wherever you are in the world, and you may never have heard of these we shall see.
- PERMISSION from the father
I know this one isn’t a wedding day tradition, but it is still a wedding tradition. My fiancé didn’t ask for permission from either my Dad or Step Dad, which is absolutely fine by me. We have been together for almost eight years and have been living together for five years. So I think asking for permission would be a bit weird. I still think it can be a nice gesture and is quite sweet, I know a lot of people still do it. It’s just one Greg opted not to do. It is quite an old fashioned tradition that isn’t really for us.
- No veil
I won’t be wearing a veil. Each to their own and it doesn’t bother me if people wear them obviously. But veils aren’t my thing, I don’t particularly like the look of them. So I will be skipping them and wearing something else instead.
- Ceremony seating sides
We want be having sides, by this I mean, in case you didn’t know. We won’t be having my family all sitting on one side and Greg’s family sitting on the other side. We are going to have people sit where ever they want and whatever side they want.
- No formal – being ‘received’
What I mean is, at the beginning of the reception/wedding breakfast. when the bride or groom stand and greet everyone as they enter into the reception space. Or on the flip side if the guests are already in the reception space the bride and groom get an extravagant entrance and everyone stands and applauds (again no judgement you do your wedding) We aren’t formal people and we also don’t like fuss or attention on us, so we want be doing this one. The ceremony and reception are happening a stone through away from each other, literally on the same piece of land! So I think having these formal introductions would be odd and wouldn’t fit into the day. Everyone who is coming is our close family, who we don’t greet formally normally, so doing it on this day would be weird.
- No gifts
Like I said we’ve been together for years now and we’ve lived together for years as well. So we don’t need or want gifts. Traditionally gifts were given because the married couple didn’t live together but, we do. So no gifts needed thank you
- Bouquet Toss
Simply, I’m not a flower person. I don’t even know if I will have a bouquet at this stage. I’m not really interested or bothered. It’s just a random tradition that I don’t really have any interest in following.
- Wedding cake
Wedding cakes are beautiful! Don’t get me wrong. BUT they are also expensive (understandably alot of work and detail and time gets put into them) however, I’m not interested. Wedding cakes barely get touched, from my experience from weddings I’ve been to. I know myself I’ve never eaten the cake, but maybe that’s just me. So instead I’m not sure what we’ll do, but it won’t be a five tier white masterpiece.
- No send-off
Send offs can be nice, bit weird, but nice. Like you’re the first one to leave your own party? that you spent a lot of money on?. (don’t worry I understand why some pole do it) For us, we won’t be doing this. The ceremony and the reception are happening in the house we are staying so, if anything we will be sending our guests off.
- Sixpence in the shoes
Okay so you know the saying, Something old, Something borrowed and Something blue, we’ll there’s an extra bit which is normally forgotten about and that is and a Sixpence in the shoe. This one originates in Scotland but is often forgotten (wonder why) Each line represents something else. Well the sixpence is meant too signify good fortune and luck for the couple. which obvs is nice but not a tradition I’m that bothered about following, and I’m not really superstitious.
- Feet washing
Okay so apparently its another Scottish tradition (Hi, I’m Scottish if you didn’t know). This one is just weird to me, so basically the tradition is that older and happily married woman would wash and dry the brides feet the morning of the wedding. Yeah, no thanks. I’m not really a feet person and the thought of having other people washing and drying my feet is just a bit weird.
No don’t get me wrong, I like bagpipes, I have no issue with them. If played well they are great. And I’m also a very patriotic person, so having bagpipes does realsy please the patriotic side of me. But its just an extra expense that i’m just not interested in paying and I know not everyone likes them. It’s also just a bit over the top for me. Maybe if i wasn’t having a relaxed, chilled rustic style wedding and more of a big grand wedding in a manor house a bagpiper would be great.
- The Scottish Quaich
This one we won’t be doing, much to my family dissappointment. I know it’s having quite the comeback and it is quite a popular tradition in Scotland. It’s not one we are interested in taking part in.
Now this one, I like the symbolism of this one and again it plays into my patriotic nature. But as of right now we want be doing this one at our wedding either. So basically the bride and groom take a piece of their clan’s tartan and tie their hands tougher with it. This symbolises the joining of the two families and the couple. It’s where the phrase ‘tying the knot’ comes from.